What relationship isn't a leap of faith at the beginning? With Chinese online dating, the long distance, the "unreal" quality of the relationship, the lack of "real" and personal interaction, the cultural differences, the language difficulties - all these combine to make dating a China woman online an even bigger leap of faith. But as they say, the greater the risks, the greater the rewards; and in the quest for a Chinese love through a dating website, this idea rings true and has rung true for countless foreign men.
When a man sets off on his quest for a Chinese wife, more often than not, he already knows what he is looking for in an ideal woman; he already knows what he wants in an ideal relationship/marriage. He meets and gets to know many China ladies along the way. If he's extremely lucky, he meets one woman among the many with whom he instantly feels a strong connection in every level; a woman that makes him 101% certain that he can stop his search and commit to exploring and developing the real potential in that special connection. In an ideal situation, both of them would share the same feelings and agree to dating each other exclusively online until such time as they can finally meet in person.
Extreme luckiness is, by its very nature, extremely rare. What normally happens when a man goes on a search for the Chinese woman of his dreams is, he meets and gets to know many China ladies and finds them all admirable, but he narrows down his "list" (for lack of a better word) to a handful with whom he feels a level of attraction and compatibility that is worth pursuing further. As he spends more time with each of them, he may develop stronger feelings for one or two than for the others. At this point, he may decide to narrow his "list" further to only this/these women, with whom he feels there is real potential for a long-term and monogamous commitment.
Of course, having genuine intentions of finding a life partner, part of his long-term plans is to visit China to meet his potential partner/s in person and decide if the feelings they developed online can be transferred into and survive the real world. He may or may not decide to meet more than one woman, depending on how strongly he really feels for her/them and his level of certainty that she or one of them may be the one, as well as his level of trust in them. After all, just the act of flying to China, spending a lot of money, and taking a significant amount of time away from work and life back home is already a step toward a more serious commitment, and whether or not he is a romantic, he may also realize that having a backup plan (in this case, planning to meet more than one lady during his visit) is the sensible and economical thing to do. At the same time, this does not lessen the sincerity of his intentions to find a life mate.
Needless to say, if he already decided even before flying to China to only date one particular woman online and they have a mutual understanding of where they are in the relationship and what they both want in the future, then when he flies to China, he would only be visiting her. If he has been communicating with/dating more than one China lady online, however, and he does decide to meet them during his visit to China, he would still be taking a leap of faith that one of them would be his future wife, that the feelings developed over months of online communication are real and would only grow stronger when they finally spend real time together. The fact that he exercised forethought and made contingency plans in case his hopes get crushed does not make his leap of faith less significant. At least to him, each meeting also has a potential to cause him disappointment and heartache. In fact, by increasing his chances of meeting his ideal woman through meeting more than one lady, he also increases his chances of suffering disappointment and heartache multiple times.
If he does decide to meet only one woman, even if he has not been dating her exclusively online, but he has grown certain that she is worth the trip and the risks, then he is taking a leap of faith in another form. He would already know that he would be taking the same risks of crashing and burning as with all the other leaps he had taken in real life; or he could finally make his dreams come true. He would never really know until he takes that leap.
Discover tons of great information about Chinese women and Chinese dating on the blogs, magazine and forum of ChinaLoveMatch.net (the home of trusted Chinese dating ), where international men and Chinese women share their life experiences and bare their souls to give you the real goods on all things Chinese.
When a man sets off on his quest for a Chinese wife, more often than not, he already knows what he is looking for in an ideal woman; he already knows what he wants in an ideal relationship/marriage. He meets and gets to know many China ladies along the way. If he's extremely lucky, he meets one woman among the many with whom he instantly feels a strong connection in every level; a woman that makes him 101% certain that he can stop his search and commit to exploring and developing the real potential in that special connection. In an ideal situation, both of them would share the same feelings and agree to dating each other exclusively online until such time as they can finally meet in person.
Extreme luckiness is, by its very nature, extremely rare. What normally happens when a man goes on a search for the Chinese woman of his dreams is, he meets and gets to know many China ladies and finds them all admirable, but he narrows down his "list" (for lack of a better word) to a handful with whom he feels a level of attraction and compatibility that is worth pursuing further. As he spends more time with each of them, he may develop stronger feelings for one or two than for the others. At this point, he may decide to narrow his "list" further to only this/these women, with whom he feels there is real potential for a long-term and monogamous commitment.
Of course, having genuine intentions of finding a life partner, part of his long-term plans is to visit China to meet his potential partner/s in person and decide if the feelings they developed online can be transferred into and survive the real world. He may or may not decide to meet more than one woman, depending on how strongly he really feels for her/them and his level of certainty that she or one of them may be the one, as well as his level of trust in them. After all, just the act of flying to China, spending a lot of money, and taking a significant amount of time away from work and life back home is already a step toward a more serious commitment, and whether or not he is a romantic, he may also realize that having a backup plan (in this case, planning to meet more than one lady during his visit) is the sensible and economical thing to do. At the same time, this does not lessen the sincerity of his intentions to find a life mate.
Needless to say, if he already decided even before flying to China to only date one particular woman online and they have a mutual understanding of where they are in the relationship and what they both want in the future, then when he flies to China, he would only be visiting her. If he has been communicating with/dating more than one China lady online, however, and he does decide to meet them during his visit to China, he would still be taking a leap of faith that one of them would be his future wife, that the feelings developed over months of online communication are real and would only grow stronger when they finally spend real time together. The fact that he exercised forethought and made contingency plans in case his hopes get crushed does not make his leap of faith less significant. At least to him, each meeting also has a potential to cause him disappointment and heartache. In fact, by increasing his chances of meeting his ideal woman through meeting more than one lady, he also increases his chances of suffering disappointment and heartache multiple times.
If he does decide to meet only one woman, even if he has not been dating her exclusively online, but he has grown certain that she is worth the trip and the risks, then he is taking a leap of faith in another form. He would already know that he would be taking the same risks of crashing and burning as with all the other leaps he had taken in real life; or he could finally make his dreams come true. He would never really know until he takes that leap.
Discover tons of great information about Chinese women and Chinese dating on the blogs, magazine and forum of ChinaLoveMatch.net (the home of trusted Chinese dating ), where international men and Chinese women share their life experiences and bare their souls to give you the real goods on all things Chinese.
